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Thoughtful Email #14 – Relationships

Early on in our lives, boys have something of a dislike to girls, we don’t like them, we don’t want to play with them, and simply put we don’t want them around us. However, at one point in our lives, around those teen years, we discover what i will refer to as “genital motion”. in other words, erections. Yes, it is that time when we look with wonder at our genitals as they suddenly stand proudly from between our legs, offering up a strange feeling. Eventually, we understand this is caused by looking at young women. Now some, might keep a certain dislike for women, while others quickly embrace the phenomenon and start looking forward to spending more and more time with girls. That is called, sexual curiosity.

From then on, life changes permanently. We (males) can’t stop thinking about women, we like them, we want to play with them, and simply put we want them around us. Again, this applies to most people. Thus does the miracle of relationships begin. I say miracle, for there truly is nothing stranger and more confusing than wanting to be with one another.

It is said, and adopted by many as pure fact, that “women are from venus and men are from mars”. I have never fully understood why, but... to a certain extent it is true. We are very different. Differences exist between each and every individual, but even more so, between men and women. Nonetheless, we want to be in a relationship with one another. We long for it, we seem to desperately need it, to the extent of it becoming somewhat of an obsession. Why?

It is also seen as strange, and sometimes wrong, to not be in a relationship, or not want one. You should have it. You can not possibly consider being single and alone. Which is basically why many relationships fail. And yet, we remain hopeful, forever searching for our “soul mates”. For there can be only one. Or so we are made to believe. This is made easier to accept when you look at the many successful relationships. So many people are actually happy. They must be doing something right!!!

So what am i saying? what am i trying to achieve from the aforementioned blabber? Just a small point of view:

Relationships are the driving force behind the success of all those we admire most in our lives. Relationships are the energy of our lives. And we should not get into them. We should avoid them like the plague. Unless.... unless it just happens. think about that for a second, please take a moment. “Unless it just happens”. Did you think about it? good! If you let things happen, whichever relationship you get into, will drive you to your success and uttermost achievement. If you let it happen, it will give you wings (try not to think redbull). If you let it happen, it will surely be the greatest event of your life.

Too many times we try too hard, we push for things even when it is painfully obvious, just how wrong and bad the outcome will be. Like a doe caught in the headlights of an oncoming truck, this will be the person we want to be with, and we are the deer prancing towards her... the TRUCK IS COMING... Regardless of the loud horn, we seem helpless to stop moving.... When the truck hits, it will be the visual representation of a relationship failing. We change our very being for the sake of a relationship... which in itself destroys our very essence and with it, all chances of success.

But what do i know? I am just a guy still searching for my soul mate... i just hope the road is clear.

Marc Khoury
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